Looking Away

     Author                            Harsh Mander

     Country                          India

     Genre                              Non Fiction

     Publication Date            April 2015

     Pages                              426





This book has often been defined as a book that every thinking Indian should read and I couldn't have found a better way of expressing my absolute reverence for this piece of real work. All of us who are closely associated with India tend to assume that we know a lot about this land which we claim as our own; but Harsh Mander has done a brilliant job of showing us the mirror. Grappling with feelings of shame, anger, disbelief and embarrassment to name a few, I finally made it through the book and am glad to be a wee bit richer in my opinions as a result of this tumultuous journey.

The book is built across a couple of key messages ranging from the state of the Indian poor to the legitimisation of our deep rooted prejudices and finally a call for public compassion. The way we treat our help, the existence of untouchability even in today's day and age, the caste divide, homelessness, the bias against Muslims, the sky rocketing medical costs pushing people into poverty are some of the myriad issues that Harsh has touched and left an indelible impression with.

While one really has to read the book to even gauge what I am trying to imply; some of the below quotes from the book do give a flavour:

"We don't care because we are unequal, and because we don't care, inequality will persist."

"One of the leading contributors to poverty is the rising cost of healthcare. The world bank estimates that one quarter of all Indians fall into poverty as a direct result of hospitalisation."

"To be poor in India is a crime. To be poor and also gravely ill is a crime deserving only the death penalty."

Personally, for me what had been hugely reassuring is Harsh's assertion that most of the things that he is demanding are not utopian but a basic human right. While we can debate endless about the market economy and how that should be allowed to take its due course, as Harsh says there is a floor of human dignity below which no individual should be allowed to fall. And no case for market led growth can justify that. Interestingly, Harsh goes to the extent of comparing poverty related deaths in the country to mass genocide by the state.

On a personal note, while I do consider myself a reasonably empathetic individual, sometimes the extent of issues that abound India numb us and make us immune to what we can really do to make a difference. As I look back at this book, my personal take away is that if we consciously start changing the social environment around us, India still has a lot of hope and promise!



 

Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki

     Author                     Haruki Murakami

     Country                   Japan

     Genre                      Fiction

     Publication Date     April 2013

     Pages                      298






Another Haruki Murakami book that I am absolutely in love with. Some people define him as an exquisite artist and I couldn't agree more. Each book of his that I have read has been a notch better than the one before and that leaves me immensely grateful for such brilliant literature and the opportunity to savour it.

In this book, Haruki Murakami deals with themes of alienation, loneliness and insecurity exceedingly well. This is the story of Tsukuru Tazaki and his group of 4 close friends. During school days, they happen to meet by chance and form a really close relationship. As time passes, one day, these 4 friends suddenly severe their ties with him without giving any concrete reason. This leaves the already insecure and under confident Tsukuru shattered. His life, which was till now centered around these relationships becomes meaningless. Through the course of the book, Haruki traces Tsukuru's travails with this emotional rejection and how, encouraged by his girlfriend he finally decides to deal with it head on and resolve this long overdue emotional issue.

When I reflect on this book and some of its subtle but deep messages; what stays with me is Tsukuru's sense of self and how that is impacted by his constant internal dialogue. This is best brought to life through:

"There must be something in me, something fundamental, that disenchanted people. Maybe I am fated to be alone"

Another strong theme through the book is Tsukuru's insecurity and his constant fear that he would be left alone one day.

"He loved his four friends, loved the sense of belonging he felt when he was with them. Like a young tree absorbing nutrition from the soil, Tsukuru got the sustenance he needed as an adolescent from this group. Still, he had a constant, nagging fear that someday he would fall far away from this intimate community, or be forced out and left on his own"

Finally, as happens in most such cases, Tsukuru spends most of his adult life as insecure, scared and emotionally empty and that takes a toll of his life. His inability to form intimate relationships is a true reflection of this.

"I might have been afraid that if I really loved someone and needed her, one day she might suddenly disappear without a word, and I'd be left all alone."

Personally, I have been hugely impacted by this book and have started thinking about these issues in a completely different light since having read the book. The subtlety and softness with which these hugely complicated themes are conveyed are a true testament to Haruki Murakami's ability as an author.

In summary, I can't thank my friend Yosha enough for introducing me to Haruki Murakami and his work!

This Unquiet Land

      Author                        Barkha Dutt

      Country                      India

      Genre                          Non Fiction

      Publication Date        Dec 2015

      Pages                          297





Barkha Dutt has always been one of my favourite journalists. Like everyone else in her profession, there is much said about her, but to me, her personality, her attitude and just her ability to stand her own in a world of men has been inspirational! Hence, it's no surprise that with absolutely no background, l impulsively picked up this book as soon as it was published and infact, especially ordered my copy through India.

An interesting commentary on India is what this book provides. But unfortunately, it does nothing beyond. Written by someone like Barkha, it's a let down that the book has traded opinions for pure factual commentary. For anyone who has kept up to date with what's hot and happening in the Indian media, this book has nothing unique to offer. However, for the others it's a succinct accumulation of all that has happened in India over the last few years!

One of my favourite reflections from the book is the issue of feminism and how most women do disservice to this by trying hard to mimic male behaviour attributes in order to fit into a largely male dominated society. In the bargain, they unknowingly tend to forget their individuality and hence, go against the very reason, gender diversity is valued.

Another interesting discussion is the fact that terror attacks on India are becoming common place and we are at our most vulnerable position with two nuclear powered countries as our neighbours. Life carrying on post an attack is inadvertently attributed to the spirit of people, but in reality, it's really a combination of compulsion and fatalism.

Another key theme is the responsibility and the evolution of media; which Barkha has quite skilfully touched upon through the numerous topics of terrorism, riots, religion, feminism and others.

In summary, I would say that this is a fine book but is not what I had expected of Barkha!



 

Americanah

     Author                     Chimamanda Ngozi Adiche

     Country                   Nigeria

     Genre                       Fiction

     Publication Date     May 2013

     Pages                        477








I have been looking for a good book to read for a while now. Recommended by a dear friend, this award winning book did meet that basic expectation but didn't go much beyond. An interesting and insightful read, but not one of my best books ever!

Set in Nigeria under military dictatorship, this is the story of a young girl, Ifemelu who falls in love with Obinze, while studying and spending most of their childhood time together. As time passes, their lives choose different paths and Ifemelu finds herself in America while Obinze, desperate to get out of Nigeria and unable to get a visa to his most admired and fantasised country, America, finds himself in London. Through her struggles with racism and her efforts to establish herself successfully in the tough American world, Ifemelu snaps her ties with Obinze and with the rest of her past. As time progresses, both of them once again find themselves in their homeland, faced with one of the toughest decision of their lives. Torn between right and wrong, between passion and commitment, they try to ask the questions and seek the answers.

It would be fair to say that Chimamanda has done a remarkable job at stringing together a passionate story about love, relationships and race in the new globalised world. What have particularly stayed with me are her reflections on racism and the complexity and beauty of human relationships as portrayed through the book.

It would be suffice to say that Americanah has been a welcome entrant into my reading and blogging club and I am happy for it!


 

An Empty Room

     Author                        Talitha Stevenson

     Country                      United Kingdom

     Genre                          Fiction

     Publication Date        2005

     Pages                           218








An interesting and fairly quick read is how I would describe this not very well known book. I happened to pick this up on a chance at a random bookstore while on holiday and it turned out to be a pleasant surprise.

The book traces the life of a young girl, Emily who is busy spending her time with her handsome and charming boyfriend, Tom while getting wasted in bars. Coming from slightly broken and disconnected families, both Tom and Emily seem to be pretty similar in their approach to life and hence get along well. As the story progresses, Emily happens to fall for Tom's married cousin, Simon. Talitha then traces the illicit relationship between Emily and Simon and the consequences it would have for both families.

While the storyline is not particularly unique, some of the themes espoused through the book are powerful and make for a meaningful read. One of the themes that stands out for me personally is how each of us is a product of the circumstances and experiences of our formative years. Complex childhoods very easily make for insecure and complex adult lives. Another powerful thought that stays with me is how we are all prone to quick judgements and  we would do ourselves and each other much service if we don't judge the choices others make in their life. Pure acceptance (the absence of judging) is a goal we should all aspire to achieve!

Some of my favourite quotes from the book are:

'Promises matter, but happiness matters more'

'If you give your heart to someone and they choose not to take it, you never really get it back'

I would recommend this book to anyone who is looking for a quick and meaningful read!


 

Dealing with People you Can't Stand

    
     Author                    Rick Brinkman & Rick Kirschner

     Country                  United States

     Genre                      Management

     Publication Date    1994

     Pages                       224







I am not a huge fan of management books and hence more often that not, I end up staying away from them. Having said that, I sincerely want to and try to read them once in a while but unfortunately, I don't really get the same motivation for them as I do for my beloved fiction!

And hence its no surprise that I had no plans to pick this up till a friend literally gave me the book and told me to read it!

But I have absolutely no regrets at blindly following her advice!

This was a quick read with some interesting insights. And in my view, the best part of this book is its name. Being what it is, it is hardly discreet and it's amusing to see how those around you get worried with you reading this! (For the longest time my husband was insecure with this book on my bedside!)

As the title suggests, at various points of time in life (more often than we would like to), we have to deal with people whom we don't necessarily like. And through this book, the authors help us identify who these people are, why they are behaving the way they are and what really can be done in order to deal better with them. The categorisation of people really rings a bell for me personally and as I read through the descriptions, I couldn't help but think of different people for each categorisation. Moving on from categorisation, the book then helps us identify the intent behind each of the behaviours and how depending on which intent is threatened, one tends to take on a different role. And the crux of dealing with such situations really lies in identifying this intent. The better we are at pulling ourselves back from the real situation and at identifying the intent, the better will we be at dealing with the situation. And while this sounds simple and obvious, it is indeed very powerful when conscientiously implemented.

In summary, I would suffice in saying that this is an interesting read and really worth one's while. For anyone who is interested in learning about how to deal with people, this would be a highly recommended read.

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Why Should Anyone be Led by You?

     Author                      Rob Goffee & Gareth Jones

     Country                    United States

     Genre                        Management

     Publication Date      2006

     Pages                        217

    





If you are looking for a management book that's real and authentic, then this could easily be your pick! The fact that this is far removed from any standard leadership theories makes it easily relatable; thereby striking an instant chord. And the title of the book: 'Why should anyone be led by you?' triggers enough curiosity to make one pick up the book.

The authors have done a commendable job in very simply defining true leadership. And this statement of mine is really an oxymoron since the very essence of the book is that there is really no definition of leadership and one has to do what works best for him. 'Being yourself' is a powerful theme in the book. Managing inherent tensions like 'being authentic while conforming enough'; 'establishing intimacy while maintaining a distance' is another core theme espoused by the book.

While there are a number of key messages, personally for me what has been a huge insight is the fact that while it's important to retain one's authenticity, one really does need to conform enough, especially in the beginning to  establish oneself in an organisation.

Another interesting insight for me was the entire concept of work life balance and how according to the authors, it's not just about spending more time at home but rather about transforming workplaces into arenas that allow for the display of authenticity. That, to me, is a really fresh way of looking at the concept of work life balance.

Like I have shared before, I am definitely not a fan of management books but reading this one has definitely been a fresh and enriching experience!

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